Step Grandmothers?

Well it seems there is quite a furore surrounding the announcement of Camilla being Grandmother to Princess Charlotte, but of course she is. Children need parents and grandparents in their lives, people to love them, protect them and be there for them. It's the adults around that have their own agenda and in turn spoil the innocence of family relationships and prevent bonding within extended families..

As a life coach, dealing with family unrest or disputes is a frequent occurrence, it can be difficult to move on in life when others tell you it is wrong, and step families are high on the list. Second families are now common place, yet despite the acceptance of divorce, re-marriage, step children and step siblings, there is still a stigma attached to the step parent. Often excluded from social gatherings, and outcast by family members, so how does this negativity occur?

Well in years gone by family dynamics changed as a result of war, shorter life expectancy and incurable illness, the changes in the modern world mean that relationships often come to an ultimate conclusion naturally rather than forcibly. As a society we search for blame yet we should search for resolve.  Loyalty can be damaging when misplaced. When a widow or widower remarries there is support for the continuation of their life with company, yet a divorcee will not receive the same support regardless of the same emotional need. The children in the battlefield are more interested in being loved and appreciated and building relationships.  If this were not the case then I would not see clients with this dilemma and programmes such as 'Surprise Surprise' would not exist.

It's much easier to give advice when on the outside looking in, or when driven by more outspoken or confident family members. As the dust settles so does the cold light of day, do you honest want to exclude people from your life because someone else thinks you should.  Everyone has their reasons for the make or break of a relationship, years are wasted being a casualty too.

So what should Camilla do? Take a back seat, deny Princess Charlotte the pleasure of time with her Step Grandmother, one whose Father has taken on as his Father's wife.  Looking back solves nothing but looking forward and embracing change can enrich and fulfill your life. Nobody really knows the complexity of family and life when watching through a press presented window. Who honestly knows the complexity of our lives when watching from outside.

For others outside of the royal family, with your own family difficulties, why? what has created the barrier from you? not by someone else, what limiting belief holds you from moving on with the people you love?

There are second wives and husbands everywhere wondering why. There are parents and grandparents wondering the same.

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